Do you have clients, vendors, people around you that fail to honor agreements or commitments with you and your business?
Do any of the following sounds familiar:
- Are people around you late a lot?
- Do they make last minute cancellations?
- Do they tend to not follow-through with their commitments?
- Do they not follow-through their part of the deal (do their due diligence)?
If you get an occasional client that is late or cancels, that’s fine. Life happens.
However, if you continue to encounter these types of clients, the problem, more often than not, isn’t with what’s going on in the outside world.
Time and time again, in working with our private clients and our students, we found that to resolve the challenges that we have with people who aren’t honoring their commitments or agreements with us, it’s because there’s a part of us, individually, inside in our own little world of mental, emotional, physical, and energetic beings that we’re not honoring our own agreements and commitments that we have made.
So, one of the first places to start to resolve challenges that you may have with people not honoring agreements or commitments in your business is to start taking inventory of what agreements and commitments you’re making inside to yourself that you’re not honoring, and this applies to both business and life.
You may think honoring agreements you made to other people and to yourself are two different things, but they are really not in terms of the effect it has on you. Because either way, you are breaking an commitment or agreement you made to yourself, whether or not it involved other people.
For example:
- Do you promise to work-out every week and stop after 2 days?
- Do you set the intention to finish certain tasks and give up?
- Do you commit to show up at a certain time and are frequently late?
- Do you make a promise you’d spend time with your family or loved ones and cancel in the last minute?
The first two are commitments to yourself, while the latter two are commitments to others. But either way, when this happens regularly, your clients will start to reflect the same thing. Your vendors will start to reflect the same thing. The people in your entire world around you or the people that you attract will start reflecting the same thing.
And try as you might to resolve that, it’s like trimming the hedges. It doesn’t resolve the core beginning, the root of where that problem came from, and unfortunately that starts with us.
So, if you find yourself struggling with that, now you know the solution.:
Start taking an inventory and make a list of all the different things that you’ve made an agreement and commitment to yourself about that you violated or just did not honor.
Go back to that list, and start to honor what it is that you wanted and follow through with yourself in all areas of your life including your business, you’ll start to see a major shift, ripple effect, happen to those that end up coming to your life from that peripheral in.
I want you to sit with that because this is going to make a huge difference especially if you are having challenges with people not honoring their agreements with you or their commitments with you.
So, what are you waiting for?
Start honoring the agreements and commitments that you make with yourself for yourself, follow through with that, say “no” when appropriate, say “yes” when appropriate, and you’ll start to see that what happens around you is that people will start to honor their agreements and commitments to you as well.
